Your Core Values Quiz
But knowing yourself is a broad topic. An education that takes a lifetime.
It’s an elusive mistress/master that can be slippery and disguised in vague ideas about what makes you tick, and what makes you boom with excitement, love or rage…
And since you’re not about to spend a lifetime with me here, can I instead show you a rather quick and easy (but not passive) way of shortcutting this process to get you the most valuable “crown jewells” (come on! I had to slip a jewellery pun in there) in maximum 10 min?
These are a set of filters (beliefs, ideals & practices) we use to make sense OF, and IN the world.
They’ll bring clarity and purpose and a super easy way of saying NO to the things that don’t align.
Most importantly – they’ll keep you present on your journey.
They keep you intentional about WHY? WHY you’re doing this life thing. This work thing. This friendship. That marriage. The degree. The business!
If you feel you’re going through life working your butt off to get somewhere. You know you work hard. You apply your everything to get to where you’re going. But half the time you’re so busy doing and speeding from day to day and project to project, that you don’t know, or forget to remember your WHY… I invite you to try this approach to zooming in and keeping on your path.
Once you’ve chosen your Core Values, you can go back to Step 2 in the Tiny Little Actions method (which you’ve probably already seen on this page) – and I’ll show you how you can use them each day to create the behaviors and mind-states you desire.
Then grab a piece of paper. This won’t hurt a bit ;o)
Step 1: Who do you love, baby? And why?
As in what are the values you hold dear for yourself already? Or what values you admire in others you respect?
You may already be very clear on what drives your decisions, your outlook on life and how you relate to others. In this case list as many of those values as you can think of.
If you’re not sure, or would like to self-check that you’re not missing out on something important, then here are a few idea generators:
- Consider also what you aspire to have as your core values.
- What are the values of the people you respect and look up to? Why do you look up to them?.
- Think back to moments in your life when you were super happy, or you were on the better end of a hardship: what were the values that carried you through?
- And finally – look through this list and see if anything resonates enough to include.
Now just write them down. The whole lot.
Step 2: Get clear
Next – go through the list in front of you and decide if all of them need to be there?
Keep only the absolute deal-breakers. The ones that have a tug on your heart. Like – you can’t be without those values. You just wouldn’t be your best most true to yourself self.
Beware here of listing values you may have taken from your parents. Or values imprinted on you by your environment. REALLY self check.
One more thing: these are not your core values forever. They’re the ones for right now.
The beauty and certainty in life is the constant of change. So your values too can, should and will change as you go through your life. Let them support and enhance you by remaining aware of what they are at each step.
Delete what doesn’t need to be there.
Re-list the rest in order of importance – most important first.
Now – see if any of them are the same thing. Like love and being kind to living things can be one and the same (in what it means to you).
Or trusting in yourself and trusting in a higher Being – that can be interchangeable depending on the context.
These are values we each hold dear and deep. They’re built into us from day one.
Step 3: Make each into a single word
Finally, pick the top 5 that you nominated as most important and synthesise each into 1 to 3 words. Ideally you should be able to give each value a single descriptive word.
Choose words that you can identify with effortlessly (even if under stress). Or as Michael Gervais frames it: you should be able to recall them under gunpoint in the middle of the night…
You’ll know you’ve got your core value drivers right if when you read them through, you FEEL them as a part of you. As if they’re an arm or a leg.
I ended up with these 5 words: Love, Trust, Create, Breathé, Buzz.
In the beginning I had to write the short explanations next to each to help me stay clear and internalise their meanings so that they become a solid part of my consciousness.
That’s the hard part – to keep them front of mind long enough to become one with them.
But that’s when they start paying off.
That’s when they provide me with the strength to stay on course, or the self belief to change and trust that I can handle things as they come along. The clarity of why I’m here and where I’m heading – at least for this phase in time.
The calmness to be present with whatever path is unfolding…
These 5 words hold me up like no outside influence can.