Your Core Values Quiz
But knowing yourself is a broad topic. An education that takes a lifetime.
It’s an elusive mistress/master that can be slippery and disguised in vague ideas about what makes you tick, and what makes you boom with excitement, love or rage…
And since you’re not about to spend a lifetime with us here, can we instead show you a rather quick and easy (but not passive) way of short-cutting this process (a little) to get you the most valuable “crown jewells” (come on! there had to be a way to slip in a jewellery pun at least once) in maximum 10 min?
These are a set of filters (beliefs, ideals & practices) we use to make sense OF, and IN the world.
They’ll bring clarity and purpose and a super easy way of saying NO to the things that don’t align.
Most importantly – they’ll keep you present on your journey.
They keep you intentional about WHY? WHY you’re doing this life thing. This work thing. This friendship. That marriage. The degree. The business!
If you feel you’re going through life working your butt off to get somewhere. You know you work hard. You apply your everything to get to where you’re going. But half the time you’re so busy doing and speeding from day to day and project to project, that you don’t know, or forget to remember your WHY…
We invite you to try this approach to zooming in and keeping on your path.
Once you’ve chosen your Core Values, you can go back to Step 2 in the Tiny Little Actions method (which you’ve probably already seen on this page) – where we’ll show you how you can use them each day to create the behaviors and mind-states you desire.
Then grab a piece of paper. This won’t hurt a bit ;o)
Step 1: Who do you love, baby? And why?
As in what are the values you hold dear for yourself already? Or what values you admire in others you respect?
You may already be very clear on what drives your decisions, your outlook on life, and how you relate to others. In this case list as many of those values as you can think of now.
If you’re not sure, or would like to self-check that you’re not missing out on something important, then here are a few idea generators:
- Consider also what you aspire to have as your core values.
- What are the values of the people you respect and look up to? Why do you look up to them?
- Think back to moments in your life when you were super happy, or you were on the better end of a hardship: what were the values that carried you through?
- And finally – look through this list and see if anything resonates enough to include.
Now just write them down. The whole lot.
Step 2: Get clear
Next – go through the list in front of you and decide if all of them need to be there.
Keep only the absolute deal-breakers. The ones that have a tug on your heart. Like – you can’t be without those values. You just wouldn’t be your best most true to yourself self.
Beware here of listing values you may have taken from your parents. Or values imprinted on you by your environment. REALLY self check.
One more thing: these are not your core values forever. They’re the ones for right now.
One of the few certainties in life is constant change (at least of everything around you). So your values too can, should, and will change as you go through your life. Let them support and enhance you by remaining aware of what they are at each step.
Delete what doesn’t need to be there.
Re-list the rest in order of importance – most important first.
Now – see if any of them are the same thing and reconcile them into one term. Like “love” and “being kind to living things” can be one and the same (in what it means to you). You can reconcile both into “love”.
Or “trusting in yourself” and “trusting in a higher Being” – that can be interchangeable depending on the context – you could reconcile it as “trust”.
These are values we each hold dear and deep. They’re built into us from day one.
Step 3: Make each into a single word
Finally, pick the top 5 that you nominated as most important and synthesise each into 1 to 3 words. Ideally you should be able to give each value a single descriptive word.
Choose words that you can identify with effortlessly (even if under stress). Or as Michael Gervais frames it: you should be able to recall them under gunpoint in the middle of the night…
You’ll know you’ve got your core value drivers right if when you read them through, you FEEL them as a part of you. As if they’re an arm or a leg.
Don’t overthink it.
There’s no right or wrong way of deciding. Different words will create different emotional response in different people. So let your instinct decide on the final words. It’s key that these words create emotions that are directly associated with what they mean.
It makes a lot of sense that you get to know them. It makes sense not to fly on auto pilot, no?
I ended up with these 5 words: Love, Trust, Create, Breathe, Buzz.
In the beginning I had to write the short explanations next to each to help me stay clear and internalise their meanings, so that they become a solid part of my consciousness.
That’s the hard part – to keep them front of mind long enough to become one with them.
The easiest thing to do is to write or print them out. Stick them somewhere where you spend a lot of time and maybe even bring a copy with you in your wallet. Or why not create a screensaver on your phone (or Apple Watch face)? That way you get to see them consciously AND sub-consciously.
When you’ve internalised them – that’s when they start paying off.
That’s when they’ll provide you with the strength to stay on course. Or the self-belief to change and trust that you can handle things as they come. The clarity of why you’re here and where you’re heading – at least at this phase in time.
The calmness to be present and intentional with whatever path is unfolding…
Step 4: Turn your value into an intent
Now you have your 3-5 top core values listed in order of priority for you in this moment in your life (remember things will change and shift as you go through your life), let’s turn that into an actionable intent.
This step can be as easy as just deciding to focus on living by that value as a matter of priority – starting now.
Say we take my “buzz” value in the list above. For me that represents anything that’s joyful and creates positive excitement. So if I chose that as my focus, my intention statement would be worded along the lines of:
I will notice and embrace every opportunity to fully enjoy joy-giving moments. I’d then sit and think a little deeper as to what those moments may be – just so I give my brain a way of assessing where it needs to intervene.
Does that make sense to you?
What core value did you pick?
How would it look as an intention statement that expresses unambiguously how you intent to honour that value in your day-to-day REAL life, as it is at the moment (not in some ideal scenario one day)?
When you have that written down, it’s time to return to Step 2 in the Tiny Little Actions method to finish off the process you started.
Either way – let’s get on with step 2 of the TLA Method.